Ira Gollobin did one of the most despicable things a father and grandfather can do to a child. He knowingly planned and secretly carried out a scheme to victimize one of his loving daughters and to damage his only biological granddaughter.
Virtually all psychiatric professionals will agree on the significant damage caused by what Ira did. While not sexual or physically violent in nature, what Ira did was clearly a calculated and vicious example of child abuse.
Lest you argue my use of the term "Child Abuse," first reflect on what these respected organizations say -
Make no mistake - what Ira Gollobin did to his daughter and his only biological grandchild was not an accident, not an oversight, not something that somehow just "slipped between the cracks."
No. What Ira Gollobin did in his final Will was purposely
planned and crafted to do
the maximum mental and emotional damage to his daughter and
His goal was simple and horrible - to punish them because they
didn't worship him as a near-god as he required. Ira did his
by betraying and rejecting a good daughter and a good granddaughter, by
ignoring their futures, by dismissing
them as beneath contempt, and by hugely and visibly rewarding someone who, in my opinion, didn't live his
values but did feed his enormous ego.
a father (and grandfather) to purposely
and viciously damage the daughter and granddaughter who
his stated principles and values is, frankly, beyond my comprehension.
further, to then so visibly reward his other daughter (who I
believe fed Ira's enormous, obsessive ego and denigrated her
sister) is sickness personified.
This loveless wickedness will be Ira's final, personal legacy. And, like pointing out the rapist, this is a story that must be told so that those who were damaged can heal and so others can know the truth.